Expectations growing older.

Being older is not a sin and is as worthy as anything, one who cross the usual age limit and labeled as "OLD" is the one with tons of experience and knowledge if he earned so. Geezer hood usually starts after late 50s in our era and the actual face of people to you also disclose after the same. Who brought up their children in any better way they want they usually expect the same amicable and amiable behavior from them in their old age towards them, but sometimes this is the beginning of cataclysm, the limpid example of this are the old age homes and rehabs. We usually saw these places on television with an anchor interviewing and interrogating these old age people with affliction and adjuration of compassion to their dear ones to kindly take them back, but may or might these people aren't having that factor of kindliness to the old dear ones by any chance because the aplenty is going high to higher and the increment of these shows as well. These people don't want anything, but love and care alike they brought up their children, but God knows what was left in their nourishment that they're facing this in their most important period of lifetime, maybe to some extent Shakespeare's saying is so true "Expectation is the root of all heartache" they expected good and get nothing but bad,

 

"Mera ek hi beta tha, mene apni biwi ki wafat k baad usay buhat pyar se paala, dusri shadi islie nahi kari k kaheen dusri maa uskay saath sautailapann dikhaye aur mere betay ko takleef puhanchay, magar mujhe nahi pata tha k meri umer k is hissay mein mera beta hi mujhe sautaila kardega", reported one of my meeting with a darksome father volunteering Edhi Home, Sohrab Goth, Karachi.

There's surely no end to the expectations as this is a strong part of everyone's life and it's hard to abolish this, but as others do I would do the same appeal to these cruel and marble hearted people please start being kind, gentle and loving to your old parents or people you live with if they're in the same old age of care and respect.
                                   
                                                    

Another view to the same is truly incisive, it's the view from an orphan's eye or the one who is not having parents with him/her the one expect many things from this world to achieve and to live with, but in just a blink of an eye the mountain of expectations vanishes away by any means, by the death of parents, by separation or anything like this, one ultimately become older after any of the thing mentioned, many things of his own life disturbs or changes completely, nature, sense of viewing things, factor of patience, care and sense of responsibility everything changes in a while, but no one can complain about this sudden happening, but here the sense of patience works and the one become old the same way with expectations in his heart. 
                                   

Happy Birthday.

Well, this is not a public post to some extent, but as I'm posting it here it somehow a public post as I started this blog titled What Life Is?, then today's date is so much important for me as it's the birthday of a very precious and important part of my life and the reason behind to post this is as same as I wrote to refresh that part of my life, he's too dear to me, a person with kind heart, but sometimes tries to be hard, but always failed to be, he's somewhat emotional and sentimental at times without realizing himself and when you try to make him feel that how he's that time he sure will contradict with you by any of the lamest excuse, sorry, but this too is a part of him and I accepted him completely with all his faults and flaws keeping his good and best on top which sure covers the bad part of him, he's more like blood to me or oxygen, an important and a must part of my life that sure will never ends until I last. He's a good fighter, I must say because we keep on fighting like every time. I think I am the only one with whom he fights a lot like on every single topic, but these ends as soon as it starts, he's a helper and a great teacher or a supporter to me and scolds me every time like an adult even hit me hard, not complaining though. I expect many things from him and wish to be with this greatest of all friends forever and after, there are some faults in everyone he too have like me, but I request him to please look upon the matters related to me with a broader view and a positive one, I am, but not always the bad. I don't expect you to love and trust me all at once, but I do want you to believe that I will give my whole heart to this friendship, though I already did; and if I make mistakes, as I probably will, no one will grieve over them more bitterly than I. My fault is that I was a stranger to you for a long time, when I want to be your best friend. That is one of my mistakes, and I never repented it more deeply than I do now. Anyway, it's your big day so enjoy it at its peak and try to get every happiness from this evil world and I'll pray that you will get them. Amen.

Loads of Love,
Happy Birthday.
Zain Ali.

Karakti Bijliyan.

Title, seems funny, but actually it's not, after posting some of the sentimental stuff about life I think to post something social and knowing. The topic I want to discuss is moreover a joke than supportive in our surrounding, it's about Eunuch or Hijras, Khusra, Khadray or Chakka. In today's world they are only taken as entertainers and the people who come to greet you and your family on special occasions by dancing, singing songs and their special clapping style or the people to amuse yourself, but in reality they're actually very talented people in their own criteria. They love to see people happy and smiling, did you ever notice the things they say or do than making fun of them? I did. After being curious to know about them, and having some of the healthy experiences with these people I coincidentally saw a project thesis on the same at an art school last month. I saw some of the quoted lines there and noticed that Yes! I heard this before, why did not I take it serious or anyone?

Anyway, they are rather male turned women or having inter-sex (third gender) but this is not about their gender this is all about their respect, their value in the society. According to 2009 census in Pakistan, these people's numbers between 80,000 and 300,000, which is a big ratio, they use to live in groups of 6-12 headed by a Guru, normally the oldest and they not do anything except by earning livelihood performing/dancing/singing in family functions e.g, birthdays, marriages or childbirths. They've no right in public and they often be sighted by not so good view, but why? When do we think for them?

They're bold, blunt and straightforward and always speaks for truth. They always keep their self-respect, ego and self-esteem at first. Though they amuse others, but they never want this by their own, it's the situation and the conditions of our society that leads them to the same; reported one of my short meeting with Raja at Waterpump, Karachi.

Some of the lines that you must have listen in your lives, but never think over them, but now you will, 

• "Haye Haye Baji! Allah ki qasam hum pedaishi khadray hain, humain parhna likhna sikhaogi?"
•  "Aye meri pyari amma, naach gaa k mangna kisko pasand hay, tum koi nokri dilwado!"
•  "Haye mere shahrukh ne khoobsurat suit pehna hay, qasam se is'se acha si kar de sakti hun,mujhse silwaogay?"

You must would think over them now, this is not a public post I am writing, but this is just to wake that sleeping you maybe any one of ten will act over the point that I highlighted. Please stop degrading them, they are just like us, their situation may be different or they have gender issues, but they're humans too. Yes, they are. I am reporting a line that I saw at art school and I heard a same line myself at traffic signal too which surely melt your heart if you have one. 

"Haye meri reema! Hum bhi Allah k banday hain, esay tuo mat dhutkaro, kam az kam humein insan tuo samjho!" 

                            

Insight ♥

Carrying a relationship considered the toughest thing on planet. Maybe it actually is, but I contradict with this. I believe that relationship has a complete new meaning in our society now and it's not as it has to. We're having relationships with everyone in our surrounding, but exposition of it is whole wrong. What about that thing we're having with a friend of same sex? Isn't it a relationship? Actually it is and calling it a relationship publicly is not a sin. 

The people we meet daily of our same gender and label them as "FRIENDS" are truly having a relationship with us and may or might we're compatible with them more than anyone and most of us agree to this. So, when we talk about this congenial relationship there are many of the stuff we experience own self. Being loved by someone is like who on this planet don't like this. It's the best thing that someone can do to you and if it's the same best friend than you get your heaven on earth, but you only know that how much you love or care for the one, but never come to know the same from the diametric side. The situation is alike when you care, you never know the outcome and I think this is not a healthy thing for any relation. Talking about honesty and sincerity does not always ends on the same, it's something you can show by your actions and deeds. No one can ever be loved or cared by words it's all somatic that' should be exposed in any relationship. If you don't like any specific thing about one you've got the right to say it to them, not publicly, but if you attribute something you really need to say it publicly this is the way these relationships flow and the main thing is when you're sharing your life with someone, be courageous to listen your faults as well as your good nature, but our dilemma is not listen the bad side of us and to feel comforted by knowing the good only. Change it seriously, we do have many choices out there to begin relationships, but the one who acts like I described is the true companion of yours, the one who thinks of you before anything is the one who loves you genuinely, your true lover in today's dictionary whether of your same sex or opposite. Do care for the one and please return the love more than you receive before it's too late and you lose the one.